Three Actions to Create Peace and Prosperity in 2021

Three Actions to Create Peace and Prosperity in 2021

Three actions

to create peace and prosperity in 2021

New Year’s is around the corner. Are you making any resolutions? Want to change anything?

How about next year being your best year yet in creating peace and prosperity?

Here are three actions to put on your TO DO LIST for 2021:

1. Carve out 10% of your time to devote to inner peace and growth. You have 24 hours every day, so 10% would be 2.4 hours. You are thinking, “I don’t have that much time!” Are you sure? What about time spent watching tv or gaming? What about sleeping until the last possible moment to get up? If you want your best year yet, then you need to spend 10% of your time on YOU! What will you do with that time?

  • Meditate or pray. Do you want more peace? Meditation or prayer is a proven activity that lowers anxiety and increases both mental and physical health. Think about 5-15 minutes for meditation or prayer.
  • Journal. Every day enter a note about gratitude. When you foster a spirit of gratitude daily, you will notice a difference in how you go about the day. You will be less anxious about what you don’t have and more thankful that what you do have. Just read this quote. “I thought 2020 would be the year I got everything I wanted. Now I know 2020 is the year I appreciate everything I have.” Think about 5-10 minutes journaling.
  • Exercise. You don’t need to join the gym. Just move at least 30 minutes a day that can get your heart rate up. Consistent exercise releases all the good hormones and helps negate the bad stuff. If you need to lose weight, consistency will help, but nutrition is best. Think of at least 30 minutes for exercise.
  • Eat Good. Eating right takes time to actually slow down when you eat as well as making food that is good to eat. Nutrition might actually be the change with the biggest impact in your overall physical and emotional health. When I eat like crap, I feel like crap. If I eat good, I have higher energy and clear thinking. Both help me get things done, which in turn, creates peace and less anxiety over what is NOT getting done. Think about one hour for meals and meal prep. Slow down and eat right.
  • Plan Your Work and Work Your Plan. Easy, right? Many people plan a day. Few plan a week. Create a template for a week that reflects your values and priorities including time for others. Plan your week based on the template including each day. Think about the ONE THING most important to complete each week. At the end of the year, you will have moved the needle in the areas that matter most. Want more peace and prosperity. This is a key one! Think about 15 minutes to plan your week and 5-10 minutes to prep for the next day.
  • Read. In some part of your day, take 10-15 minutes to read. That should be about a chapter a day. Depending on the book, that means a book completed about every two weeks. Coupled with listening to a book or podcast in the car, on a run, or working around the house, and you are LEARNING! Leaders are readers. Think about 15 minutes for reading.
  • OK. Depending on how you time the above out, you took 10% of the day for activities that will create health, peace and prosperity in 2021. Not as daunting as you thought, right?

2. Save 10% monthly. No rocket science on this one. One of the greatest enemies of peace is money and bills. What if you paid off all the debt and saved 10% each month? How would that effect your peace and prosperity by the end of next year? You don’t need to answer that. Set up an auto withdrawal to your savings or investment account. In other words, pay yourself FIRST, not LAST. Live within your means without the credit card. At the beginning, this can be hard. The peace that comes from no bills and money in the bank – priceless!

3. Give 10% monthly. Are you kidding me? Give away 10%. That is way too much! Before you just shut down on this one, think about how that money can impact others. Our family is starting a non-profit this year. The goal is for all us to give 5%-10% to the non-profit. Some of us already support other causes. Each month, a family member chooses where the money will go. We will have a few agreed upon rules, but a great deal of flexibility. I can’t wait to see how many people we can help just as a family. At the end of next year, Christmas will not just be about us. It will be about how we cultivated generosity and blessed others. What kind of peace and prosperity could you feel next Christmas if you gave away 10% of your income? You will never feel anything quite like it.

So, there you go. Three simple actions that can make 2021 your best year yet (and a great year for those around you, too!).

Wishing you all the best year yet in 2021!

Shalom,

Doctor Peace

Three Last Minute Gift Ideas That Bring Peace and Smiles

Three Last Minute Gift Ideas That Bring Peace and Smiles

for many

families

this is one of the most difficult Thanksgivings for some time. Loved ones are missing around the table. Health workers are stretched thin as hospitals are filling up. In many states, restrictions are preventing families from gathering. For some, that is a good thing because family is a hard thing. Anxiety is becoming a pandemic as well as COVID-19. People are fearful and depressed. We are Zoomed out. We long for some sense of normalcy of a pre-COVID world. When will it end? Peace is evasive. Hard to be thankful for much in 2020.

Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can create peace in your heart and the hearts of others around you this Thanksgiving.

1. Cultivate gratitude in yourself. It all begins with YOU! If you want peace, you need to get your peace together! A great starting point? Gratitude. Simply start your day, every day, with this simple exercise of filling in the blank. “ I am gratitude today for ________________.” I have journaled for over 40 years. I have 40 years of cultivating a heart of gratitude. What is the result of a heart of gratitude?

  • Gratitude helps your relationships, all of them!
  • Gratitude improves your physical health.
  • Gratitude improves your mental health.
  • Gratitude increases empathy and decreases anger.

  • Gratitude helps you sleep better.
  • Gratitude improves your self-esteem.

(based on Forbes article in 2014 by Amy Morin)

2. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for family.

  • Handwrite Thank You notes to family members, all of them, even the grouchy ones!
  • Think of something very specific and unique to the family member and WHY you are grateful.
  • For fun, include a simple gift: a gift card, tea bag, candy bar, etc. The gift should be something the person would enjoy and conveys your thoughtfulness.
  • Tell them of your gratitude. What is better than a handwritten note with a small gift? Speaking words of gratitude directly to the person, face to face (or FaceTime to FaceTime in our COVID world).

In September, my wife lost her dad. She was so grateful she had planned to see her parents and the plane ticket was already purchased and time set aside. She was able to see her dad almost every day for the last week of his life in the hospital. She was grateful the health care workers allowed the family to gather around his bedside. For other loved ones during COVID, they died alone. Be grateful for every day with people you love. Let them know it. May your grateful heart of peace spill over to family creating peace for them as well.

3. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for your community.

  • During COVID, neighbors became friends. Younger neighbors shopped for older neighbors.
  • Neighbors held virtual Happy Hours across the street from one another.
  • Co-workers covered for each other when one was sick.
  • People stayed home to keep others safe.
  • In isolation, people longed for people. We wanted to feel human touch, we wanted to hear a human voice, we wanted to see a human face (not just virtually). We needed community. We are grateful for our tribes.
  • We realized we matter to one another. As much as the media would tell us otherwise, there is far more that unites us than divides us.

I am grateful for community: my team, my neighbors, my House Church, my city, and for those who serve us all. These people most of all need to hear “Thank You”. Thank you for serving. Thank you for sacrificing. Thank you for caring for those whom you have never met. And for those whom we know, let them know our gratitude. Tell them. Often. Help them to never forget. May your grateful heart of peace pass peace to your community. And, when peace becomes viral, maybe, just maybe, we will begin living in a more peaceful world.

Thanksgiving Creates a Peaceful Heart

Thanksgiving Creates a Peaceful Heart

for many

families

this is one of the most difficult Thanksgivings for some time. Loved ones are missing around the table. Health workers are stretched thin as hospitals are filling up. In many states, restrictions are preventing families from gathering. For some, that is a good thing because family is a hard thing. Anxiety is becoming a pandemic as well as COVID-19. People are fearful and depressed. We are Zoomed out. We long for some sense of normalcy of a pre-COVID world. When will it end? Peace is evasive. Hard to be thankful for much in 2020.

Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can create peace in your heart and the hearts of others around you this Thanksgiving.

1. Cultivate gratitude in yourself. It all begins with YOU! If you want peace, you need to get your peace together! A great starting point? Gratitude. Simply start your day, every day, with this simple exercise of filling in the blank. “ I am gratitude today for ________________.” I have journaled for over 40 years. I have 40 years of cultivating a heart of gratitude. What is the result of a heart of gratitude?

  • Gratitude helps your relationships, all of them!
  • Gratitude improves your physical health.
  • Gratitude improves your mental health.
  • Gratitude increases empathy and decreases anger.

  • Gratitude helps you sleep better.
  • Gratitude improves your self-esteem.

(based on Forbes article in 2014 by Amy Morin)

2. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for family.

  • Handwrite Thank You notes to family members, all of them, even the grouchy ones!
  • Think of something very specific and unique to the family member and WHY you are grateful.
  • For fun, include a simple gift: a gift card, tea bag, candy bar, etc. The gift should be something the person would enjoy and conveys your thoughtfulness.
  • Tell them of your gratitude. What is better than a handwritten note with a small gift? Speaking words of gratitude directly to the person, face to face (or FaceTime to FaceTime in our COVID world).

In September, my wife lost her dad. She was so grateful she had planned to see her parents and the plane ticket was already purchased and time set aside. She was able to see her dad almost every day for the last week of his life in the hospital. She was grateful the health care workers allowed the family to gather around his bedside. For other loved ones during COVID, they died alone. Be grateful for every day with people you love. Let them know it. May your grateful heart of peace spill over to family creating peace for them as well.

3. Cultivate an attitude of gratitude for your community.

  • During COVID, neighbors became friends. Younger neighbors shopped for older neighbors.
  • Neighbors held virtual Happy Hours across the street from one another.
  • Co-workers covered for each other when one was sick.
  • People stayed home to keep others safe.
  • In isolation, people longed for people. We wanted to feel human touch, we wanted to hear a human voice, we wanted to see a human face (not just virtually). We needed community. We are grateful for our tribes.
  • We realized we matter to one another. As much as the media would tell us otherwise, there is far more that unites us than divides us.

I am grateful for community: my team, my neighbors, my House Church, my city, and for those who serve us all. These people most of all need to hear “Thank You”. Thank you for serving. Thank you for sacrificing. Thank you for caring for those whom you have never met. And for those whom we know, let them know our gratitude. Tell them. Often. Help them to never forget. May your grateful heart of peace pass peace to your community. And, when peace becomes viral, maybe, just maybe, we will begin living in a more peaceful world.

The decisions you make that make you

The decisions you make that make you

The Decisions You Make That Make You

People decided to vote. Our president was elected by a narrow margin of votes in some states that pushed the final electoral votes over the tipping point. Votes mattered.

Your vote matters every day in life. You vote on what you eat. You vote on when to go to bed. You vote on how you will treat others at home, work, or community. You vote on hundreds of small decisions daily. Over time, those votes/decisions pile up. The decisions you make, then make you.

Example. I step on the scale and wonder, “How did I get here?” I am about 70 pounds overweight. I did not gain all that weight overnight. Over the past 25 years, I have continually made several small decisions that contributed to my current health: obese and diabetic. For most of my life, I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain a pound. There was no visible effect of poor decisions day after day . . . until there was. At age 40 after blowing out my knee and being relegated to the treadmill instead of basketball, I started gaining small amounts of weight. Then, I started a business, that led to more businesses. No time for the gym plus day after day of poor diet choices. The slight decisions made daily then made me.

I am Doctor Peace. I work every day to help others gain peace. I work hard on my inner peace as well. My one BIG area – weight. If I am going to have total inner peace, I need to lose weight, get off my diabetic medication and become healthy. I do not know what keeps you from inner peace. I just know that something or someone keeps most of us from peace.

How do I change my situation and gain more peace? How do you? What decisions have you been making on a daily or weekly basis that creates or destroys peace? Those decisions can relate directly to our peace or the peace we experience with others. The first principle of peace is getting your peace together. We cannot pass peace to others without peace in ourselves.

How do we work on our peace?

1. We must become honest about the source. I lack peace around weight because of the choices I make every day. I cannot blame others. It does not help to heap shame on myself. It does help to call it out. The source in this case was easy. Whatever is stealing your peace – money, stress, work, relationships, or other factors, you must be honest about the decisions made that contributed to the chaos. Not necessarily big decisions. Those tiny habits and decisions made every day that have now made you.

2. We must change to find peace. This is the hard one, or so it seems. We must change. I must change. The only people I know who want change is a baby with a dirty diaper. Change is hard and usually resisted. I will not lose weight until I make healthy choices on a moment by moment basis. Not even day by day. I just need to make a good decision right now. Then, I can make another good decision in a few hours, or even minutes. When we think of the mountain to climb, we often become paralyzed to take the first step. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “You don’t need to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” Step by step we change, I change, you change. If we want personal peace, we vote every day for the change. If we want national peace, we vote every day on how we love and treat one another.

I want to make decisions every day that will make me a better version than the day before. I want to learn more, care more, give more, live more. I want to help over 3 million people find more peace by 2030. Want to join me by getting our peace together so we can pass peace to others?

Fight or Fright

Fight or Fright

Fight or Fright – 3 Tips to Fight Through Fear

What scares you? Spiders? Heights? Speed? Zombies? Psycho Serial Killers? COVID-19? Fear steals your peace. Very hard to experience inner peace when you are scared to death!

We have a natural fight or flight response when confronted by perceived danger. The quick response has kept the human race alive. We should have a healthy respect for poisonous spiders. We should understand the danger of heights or speed that can kill us. Zombies, not so much. Psycho Serial Killers, although real, pose a very, very, very small potential for our death.

When we have an unhealthy fear of something, we call it a phobia, the Greek word for fear. The word includes an element of apprehension and dread. When I was a kid, I would have nightmares about spiders. My solution was sleeping on the floor. Not very rational, I know. Somehow, if spiders were in my bed, they would not be on the floor. I could probably blame my older brother for filling my mind with spider stories. Watching some horror movies with spiders did not help. I developed a fear of spiders. The fear was not debilitating, just annoying. Still today I would not feel comfortable with a tarantula crawling up my arm. Otherwise, no reoccurring nightmares. I have slept in my bed since early childhood.

We all have fears on a continuum, from debilitating to very mild. For most of us, fear can paralyze us from moving forward in our lives and steal our peace. Here are three tips that overcome fear and live a life of courage with peace:

1. Fight Through Fear by Thoughts. Every fear begins in the mind. We often imagine the worst instead of dreaming the best. The battle of your mind is a very real fight. We must overcome the imposter syndrome to move forward toward our dreams. The reality? Every single person whom you would call successful had to overcome the imposter syndrome and repeated failures.  Regardless of the fear, the starting point is the mind. Fight through your thoughts and change your fear to peace.

2. Fight Through Fear by Exposure. Inch by inch, anything is a cinch. Small, incremental, repeated exposure to our source of fear often desensitizes us. When asked about fears, many people list the fear of public speaking. Toastmasters understand the fear and help their members slowly work toward the confidence of speaking in front of others. One year of consistently speaking and watching others fight through their fears breeds confidence and peace.

3. Fight Through Fear by Action. Sometimes we just need to jump. We can inch up to the water. Dip our toe. At some point, we must get in. The last push is often the greatest challenge. The point of no return. Sink or swim. Well, hopefully, a lifeguard is nearby. You get the point. Once beyond the point of no return, and the worst did not happen, often comes the surge of adrenalin and extreme confidence. We did it! As kids, we often return over and over again to experience the fun instead of the fear.

OK. So, what is holding you back? What is stealing your peace? No better time than now to fight through what frightens you. This is no trick. But there is a huge treat when you fight through your fear to find peace.