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Episode 5 – Good to Great Relationship Follow Up

Episode 5 – Good to Great Relationship Follow Up

Question. How did your significant other respond to the Good to Great Challenge? Sharlyne looked forward to opening her email every day knowing she was receiving a Love Note. Everyone likes to receiving mail that makes you feel great! She liked her gifts and the things I did around the house, but it was the daily love notes that she enjoyed the most.

What did I focus on for 14 days? Here are some topics:

  1. She is beautiful, inside and out.
  2. Roles: she is an amazing wife, daughter, sister, mother, grandmother and friend. Each day, I highlighted one of those roles and used examples.
  3. Qualities: generous, fun, spontaneous, caring, responsible, maximizer, listener, and golfer (we enjoy golfing together). Tell your special person that he or she is a special person.

The key? Each day highlighted WHO she is as a person and why I love that about her.

What were some of the gifts? They ranged from large to small. Confession. Some of the gifts were for the whole family. She definitely enjoyed them, regardless!

Here is a sampling:

  1. Reeses Peanut Butter Eggs (she looks forward to those all year)
  2. Hot Tub. Ok, this is for the family, but she has enjoyed it! We were planning on this for a while, but I pulled the trigger during the good to great challenge.
  3. TV mounted in the game room. We are changing out a music room for a game room. She wanted a TV, so we got a TV and I mounted it on the wall. Again, this is a family gift, but she will spend many hours doing puzzles in the game room watching Hallmark movies.
  4. New leather seats for her convertible sports car. This is an older car with some tired leather seats. We went out to eat for lunch on Valentine’s Day, enjoyed sometime around the river here in Portland, then got some estimates on the seats. The car gets new seats on Monday!
  5. Security System for the House. I wanted this as well. When I travel, this will make her feel safer. Included cameras to check out what is going on around our house. She loves it!
  6. Of course, I got her roses!

What were some of the loving acts of help and kindness?

Well, it ranged from helping get the hot tub in place on the deck to charging the batteries in her cars. Can’t believe they both went dead at the same time. Mounted the TV in the game as mentioned before. Installed the security system. Power washed some areas outside. Picked up the backyard. Like I said before, some of these things were for both of us or for the family, yet most of what I did was personal for her. They were things either for her or on her “Honey Do List”.

What was the result? ONE HAPPY WIFE. AND AS THEY SAY, HAPPY WIFE, HAPPY LIFE. There is actually a great deal of truth to that saying. Whenever you spend more time, effort and money serving others, especially the person most important to you, it will come back to you in peace and love.

Peace Out,

Doctor Peace, aka, Dr. Randall L. Kinnison

Episode 4 – Good to Great Relationship Challenge

Episode 4 – Good to Great Relationship Challenge

Is your significant relationship just average? How about even below average, or even broken? How do your take a relationship from Good to Great?

Dr. Randall L. Kinnison, AKA Doctor Peace, offers a 14 day Good to Great Challenge to change your relationship, or at least, get it moving in the right direction.

The challenge is simple:

  1. Write a love note every day for 14 days. Focus on personal traits, what you love about him or her. What drew you to him or her in you first started dating? If you are like me, you will need to type it up. My handwriting is beyond recognition! So, my lover gets an email in her inbox every morning. The first few days will be easy. Then, you need to really focus on what you appreciate about your significant other.
  2. Do something that says, “I love you” every day. This can be simple, really simple, like starting with just picking up after yourself. You can wash a car, do the laundry, load the dishwasher. It is the small acts of kindness every day that continues to stoke the fire of love. Love is more like a slow roasting pot, not a microwave. Guys, we sometimes struggle on that one.
  3. Give a gift every day that says, “I love you”. Again, these gifts can be simple and not break the bank. My wife loves Reeses Peanut Butter eggs. She loves diamonds, too! I started the challenge by giving her some roses. I am combining some gifts with some “honey do’s” around the house.

You may not get around to doing a love note, an act of service, and a gift every day. If you need to skinny down, then make sure you write the love note every day.

After 14 days, there should definitely be more smiles and hugs. The key to going from Good to Great? Consistency. You don’t need to write a love note every day, or give a gift, or do an act of service. Just remember your partner, somehow, someway, every day. Say, “I love you”. Do some simple action. Every now and then, buy a gift. BE INTENTIONAL. Marriages drift into divorce because partners quite investing in the relationship.

I will be on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter with samples of my love notes, actions and gifts. Follow along and see how Sharlyne responds to my 14 days of Good to Great.

This episode of The Doctor Peace Show is sponsored by the Genesis Divorce and Family Centers in Portland and Phoenix. They do three things: divorce prevention, guiding people through a peaceful divorce, and care for you after divorce. The Doctor Peace Team has amazing people trained to help create peace in your home, your work, and in your community.